Regardless of what romantic movies promise, Christians understand that no imperfect human spouse or child can give us what we long for—pure, unconditional love.
Only after rooting ourselves in God’s perfect love will we be able to accept the highs and lows of human love.
Simply put, I do not expect my spouse to love me in ways only God can.
Why is my marriage a target? Like the Union Rescue Mission, which serves as a vibrant alternative to the inhabitants of skid row, we too offer glimpses to our neighbors of what a covenant marriage can look like when modeled after kingdom priorities.
Every time our marriage reflects God’s values, we take back a little of the terrain shaped by human rebellion goaded by spiritual influences.
Tim Muehlhoff (PhD, University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill) is a professor of communication at Biola University in La Mirada, California, where he teaches classes in family communication, interpersonal communication, persuasion, and gender. He is the author of I Beg to Differ and Marriage Forecasting, and the coauthor of The God Conversation, Authentic Communication, and Winsome Persuasion. Muehlhoff and his wife, Noreen, are frequent speakers at FamilyLife Marriage Conferences, and Tim also serves as a speaker/author with Biola’s Center for Marriage and Relationships.
This excerpt is adapted from Defending Your Marriage by Tim Muehlhoff. Copyright (c) 2018 by Tim Muehlhoff. Published by InterVarsity Press, Downers Grove, IL. www.ivpress.com
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